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Wednesday, June 29th, 2011 15:20
I just have no one else to talk to about this that isn't either hostile or doesn't already know what I'm going to say before I say it. It's getting frustrating and not a little stressful...

Okay, there was an article posted in the Broad Street Review by its editor Dan Rottenberg, which sparked a petition on change.org. Some of you may already know this, if not read on.

In his editorial letter to one of his contributors, Rottenberg cites in a not-so-oblique way that CBS reporter Lara Logan deserved to be raped in Egypt last year, and that it is our job as women to change the way we dress because all men are animals.

That was the absolute gist, I've honestly read over the entire thing so many times I have a migraine.

My problem is not even really with the petition, it's now the conversations that have sprung from it. I waited a good 6 hours and 4 conversations with family and friends before formulating an opinionative response regarding the petition and the issues it brought up. And was slammed by three different people. That I don't have a problem with. It wasn't actually slamming even, it was more of a 'but what about this' and 'have you thought of this' which are conversations I love having, honestly.

And now it's gone to the point where I've revealed a secret that I haven't told anyone, ever, and I'm being ridiculed and mocked by one of the people. SO I've given up. She won. I lost. It's how the world works and I'm exhausted and just don't have the patience or the energy to keep up my side of the argument. So, in the end of it all, I've accomplished nothing but pissing people off and being pissed on. All in all a very satisfying day at the LJ office.

Honestly, this has no point. This post has absolutely no point other than I've been torn up emotionally over the issues and bent over backward not to make that clear in my responses, but it happened anyway, I'm done. I want to curl up with absolutely nothing to do but watch a movie, but I can't stop fucking thinking about this issue and that's making me sick. Physically ill. I have a migraine, my stomach feels like I haven't eaten anything in days (though I ate less than a half an hour ago) and I feel like I'm breaking.

So, TL;DR I'm a stupid little girl who thought she could talk in the big leagues and got slammed. Woe is me, I'm taking a nap.
Wednesday, June 29th, 2011 20:30 (UTC)
I'm really sorry that happened - would you like me to screen your reply so it isn't visible on a public post?
Wednesday, June 29th, 2011 21:03 (UTC)
No, it's fine. There's absolutely no connection between here and my real life. I'm just exhausted, and still being attacked, which is totally not what I wanted to happen, though I guess I should have expected it, the topic being what it is and all. I guess I'm too old to get the acid rolling and fight back. Thanks for the thought though. And I'm sorry for cluttering up your lj with all that over there.
Wednesday, June 29th, 2011 21:20 (UTC)
Well, if you ever change your mind, let me know. The offer stands.

And don't apologize - I don't think you had any clue that things would go the way they did, and it's more mature to walk away then continue the battle.

If you want to talk, send me a PM and we can set up screen names and such. I can only offer an ear, but it's here if you want it.
Wednesday, June 29th, 2011 21:10 (UTC)
Hun, you are NOT a stupid little girl :)

The fact that you were having meaningful conversations with people about this topic (and I will be honest, I'm having a very hard time articulating my thoughts about those remarks into coherent sensible terms) is awesome, that one person was a dick doesn't change the fact that you tried and succeeded :)

As for the secret - well, it's a shame they were shits, but I promise that not everyone will be about it :)

*big squishy hugs and a nice big quilt to snuggle into :)*
Wednesday, June 29th, 2011 21:20 (UTC)
Thank you bb. *hugs and squishes but the return of the quilt* I has a cold and a mink blanket, so I'm also suffering from that. But thank you for the kindness, I'm just tired of it. Tired of trying to defend myself for what I believe, and tired of trying to figure out whether it was just bad wording on my part, or if it's something else altogether. Thank you.
Wednesday, June 29th, 2011 22:07 (UTC)
Ridicule & mocking? Really? You thought you were joining an adult discussion, not a middle school bitchfest. Unfortunately that can happen really easily. Politics to Pinto, some people are only interested in their own opinion and will not even consider other points of view and will back it up with nothing more than name calling.

I'm sorry this happened to you darlin'. As long as you've stayed on the high road with your arguments, there is no shame in walking away with your head held high when you reach an impasse.


Wednesday, June 29th, 2011 22:52 (UTC)
You didn't lose. Just 'cause you didn't curse the loudest or make the most sarcastic reply doesn't mean you lost the argument. I think some of the distinctions you were drawing were very insightful and thought-provoking. Thanks for being willing to put yourself out there. Take care and don't take it too hard. *hugs*
Thursday, June 30th, 2011 03:43 (UTC)
I am so sorry this happened; it sucks like hell. ((hugs))